by Robert Wilkinson
The following are three Truths in human life. These truths apply equally to all of us, regardless of time, space, cultural, gender, age, or historical distinctions. For years I've tried to think of another human truth that affects everyone on Earth, without success. If any of you can come up with a fourth truth not derived from one of these three, it’ll be a great launch pad for an interesting discussion. And in the spirit of eternal jocularity, or the Divine Play that the Vedic scholars call "Lela," I’ll even entertain entertaining suggestions. These have been put various ways, they're all pretty simple and straightforward, and they have nothing to do with religion or local belief systems.
1. All forms pass away.
So don’t get too uptight at the changes. Don’t get too attached to suffering the difficulties, and don’t get too attached to the enjoyment of pleasures. Both the problems and the enjoyments will pass, so chill out and don’t take any of it too personally. Live life to the fullest while not getting stuck by clinging to habits in thought, feeling, or action that lead to suffering.
2. The Golden Rule works.
Also known as, "What goes around, comes around." Even though we may not see the larger workings of the eternal law of cause and effect, it’s there if you take a wide enough point of view. A logical corollary of this truth is that as one acts, feels, thinks, and aspires, one creates the tendencies for these to manifest in the future. We just usually have such short attention spans that we don’t see the bigger picture of the cause-and-effect cycles of our lives. Still, the Law works in mysterious ways whether we perceive it or not, and if this second Truth actually works for all of us, then it is easy to see that a third Truth is...
3. Love is the way.
Since Truth number one is inevitable, and Truth number two is an expression of a "law" governing the field of sensory manifestation, then this third Truth is the only sane way to live. It is not that all things are likeable. However, if one greets all experiences with as much love as is possible, eventually one can look back and realize that regardless of circumstances, you have had nothing but loving experiences. And if "what goes around comes around," then love is the only sane way to live, since anything else will bring passages at one time and another where we choose to love or suffer.
And contrary to popular religious and cultural superstition, I do not believe that love and suffering go together. That’s just weird, and somewhat sado-masochistic. We can learn how to be loving in the face of suffering, and to paraphrase Ram Dass, we must learn how to break the link between pain and suffering. Life can be pretty painful, but we do not have to suffer.
There's nothing here on Earth that warrants us being in a non-loving state. Not all things are likeable, but we must choose to learn to love without the usual conditions. It’s that easy, and that difficult. But since only the body, feelings, and brain die, it’s not like there’s any other game in town. And to quote some very popular guys, "The love you take is equal to the love you make."