by Robert Wilkinson
A while ago, I shared a little of my journey through loss and grief with you, as well as a couple of excerpts from my book, "Love Dad." Since it seems that so many are grieving the loss of a friend, a job, a way of life, or some other loss, I felt it would be appropriate to offer a new look at what can be done to move through the deep and heavy feelings while remembering that we are Souls, and share a deep bond of timeless Love with many others. As we live this Love, we destroy the roots of loneliness, frustration, and isolation.
From "Love Dad," Chapter 10, "The Soul Can Heal Your Grief," a section called Soul Bonds.
I believe we Souls are individually radiant sentient spheres of love. We are timeless, changing, evolving beings. It is on that level of Soul that our relationships with our loved ones exist. I envision that we are overlapping radiant love, touching each other in a deep intermingled way, living our lives in an infinite sea of energy we call Love. Humanness is a life-long challenge to integrate our body, emotions and mind so we may wisely and lovingly express our Soul-Spirit.
The body has its physical requirements when experiencing death and loss. Tensions must be released while maintaining nourishment and rest. The emotions must be honored, worked with, resolved, and transmuted. The mind must come to its own understanding and peace. Soul-Spirit knows on its own level of consciousness and will teach us if we listen to the whispers of our heart’s inner voice. This requires silence, stillness, and the willingness to go deeply into self. It is why distractions can set the whole process back and why prayer and meditation help.
This is the usefulness of solitude. Periods of solitude and contemplation are renewing, and enable us to experience ourselves apart from the transitory. This can lead us to a deeper awareness and a greater fulfillment.
To focus on deep issues also requires concentration. Concentration is usually best done in solitude. Periods of solitude and inward turning of the consciousness can lead to very deep self-understandings. Solitude, when wisely used, never leads to melancholy. Instead, it allows us to open to a more grounded sense of personal value and purpose through self-communion -- being one’s own best friend and companion.
This involves merging our inner truth with our outer nature. Eventually, by connecting with and integrating the deepest parts of ourselves, we can experience an authentic and vast harmony with all that lives. As we embrace and allow this form of higher love to come forth, the power of our Soul becomes manifest as a deep, loving calm and sense of peace that radiates to all others within our Soul-field.
© Copyright 2006 Robert Wilkinson