by Robert Wilkinson
We've certainly all had them, along with everyone else we've ever known. It's part of being human. It's also part of becoming consciously your Higher Self, since dealing with unfortunate mental and emotional patterns is key to understanding how to approach the mutual attachment of mind to feelings and how these create karmic patterns. Basically, our attachments create effects and consequences down the time stream. When ego is frustrated by the lack of fulfillment in a thing or behavior, it turns its emotional thoughts toward the destruction of that. The trick is to see what truly is or needs to be destroyed in both its outer and inner nature. By the outer symbols of our lives we know what images we identify with. Most of these, being impermanent, will be destroyed sooner or later. Our problem is in finding the right attitude while we do the journey.
Self-destructive actions, thoughts, and feelings mean one thing when we are young and inexperienced. They mean something else entirely as we learn to recognize Love, Wisdom, and Intelligence, as well as accept the Great Mystery of things we may never understand.
When we're younger or refuse to mature, self-destructive anything usually means reckless actions, feelings, and ideas. These lead to problems because an understanding of consequences is paramount if we're to come out of mental and emotional slavery. As we mature and welcome understanding our life and others' lives from an integrated view, self-destruction of certain behaviors, feelings, and ideas must be done. It's like the need to clear out the closets before we bring new material in.
It is said that Divine Mind has three aspects from which all other forms derive. These three aspects are known by many names and understandings by people on various paths to Truth. Simply, there is a Generative, Creative, Initiating Aspect. There is a Preserving, Sustaining, Harmonizing Aspect. And there is a Distributive, Fracturing, Transforming Aspect. Obviously, there are many other ways to understand this three-fold process of eternal Creative impulses being harmonized until a time of transformation. This Cosmic Process is how things manifest in our world. We learn to deal with it and ride its pulses throughout our lives.
We are born into this, and as we grow up usually learn unhelpful attitudes and feelings. We get new ideas and feelings we hold on to, while old ideas and feeling responses pass away. Always there is a process of new things showing up, sustainment for a while, then dissolution of the old, transforming into a new.
Most of us learned a host of obvious and subtle destructive mindsets and approaches, and it is by dealing with these that we come into self discipline and personality integration. We were not raised with perfect knowledge nor were we in a perfect world with perfect people, and many things we learned from others when we were children need to be changed into something more appropriate to our individualized consciousness as adults. Here radical compassion and forgiveness help, since from one point of view, we're all the blind leading the blind.
For example, there are times when we feel inconvenienced or bothered by something or someone intruding on our time or space. Well, life is for living, not being "inconvenienced." Feeling annoyed, like feeling fear, is a useless response. It is merely an emotional prod to focus our attention on how to respond to that which annoys us. We learned these behaviors and responses, and must understand them from a larger angle of vision if we want to have some ability to choose how we want to play our life situations rather than be driven by conscious and unconscious urges.
Even when I realize I am annoyed, I try not to stay stuck in vectors one moment longer than I need to. And with practice over time, I now see there are things that once annoyed me that no longer bring forth that response. It helps to surrender as fast as we can to the Divine Will, regardless of the large and small changes it's putting us all through.
There is a time and place for destroying unhelpful behaviors, especially if they lead to unfortunate consequences down the road. Then our power to note which thoughts and feelings are self-destructive to us in the present can lead us to ending those patterns. All we must do is face the motivating thought behind the feeling, and choose to redirect the thinking toward a different end.
We do not need to stay stuck in difficult feelings, but we will until we choose to deal with them directly. In learning what causes these destructive mindsets to come forth we can target the root of many things that create 10,000 problems for us down the road.
Many self-destructive thoughts and feelings masque a need to face the end of something that is no longer fulfilling. Being creatures of habit identifying with outer things, we don't like things to end. Even when they are painful, we still have a curious need to attach for a variety of reasons. However, rather than getting stuck in struggling with unhelpful patterns, we can recognize the truth that something has ended or needs to be changed into something more fulfilling for us.
Then we can choose cheerfulness and dispassion in turning away from self-destructive responses in the blink of a moment. Then if they reappear, it will be easier to remember that it's an echo of something that is no longer real, since we've already recognized the need to move on. The future always beckons to those who open their imagination to something higher, greater, and wider. It's all determined by your point of view.
© Copyright 2007 Robert Wilkinson