by Robert Wilkinson
I recently got an email from someone feeling hopeless. They wrote "life in a standstill...no money... no marriage...no children... nothing has gone right for me... I am without a job....is there any hope in the future? Cause without health and money nothing really comes around... Should I move somewhere else? Will that change my destiny?" Since we all feel one or more of these things at least once in our life, today I'll share my response. Even if you're not in a state of difficulty, what I offer may help you to help others who are feeling hopeless for whatever reason.
They felt a lack of favorable aspects was oppressing them. The absence of trines doesn't mean a lack of understanding or harmonic flow in the chart, since all waxing squares in the natal chart become trines by progression, and waning squares become quintiles and sextiles. There is NO birthchart beyond hope.
ALL birth charts show aptitude, challenges to be overcome, and forms of personal mastery to be practiced. The toughest aspects, if we rise to the challenge of "right action," show us our power to triumph even in the midst of greatest adversity, since the outer form of things is much less important than our reaction to them and how we handle them.
There is no destiny except the one we create. Only two things are fated in this world. 1) To be born where you were when you were to the people you were, and 2) The timing on your life choices. Everything else is free will, or the lack of application of that free will. These are Saturn lessons usually confronted around 28-29 and 57-59 years of age, as well as points about 7 to 14 years from these points.
These points of challenge are when we learn that we control nothing except our ability to respond correctly, in action, thought, and feeling, to whatever presents itself to our 5 senses and our minds. When misapplied, or avoided, that creates the lesser karmas that plague us. Yet that power is awesome when applied to appropriate ends. We truly have the power to change our lives and the world around us if we're willing to walk whatever Truth is ours to manifest.
Yes there are tragedies, the "big K" Karmas that deal us a major wound that must be healed if we are to find joy and happiness in our time on Earth. Everybody goes through these, so again, it's nothing personal, per se. But dealing with these can bring forth a Divine Understanding whereby we demonstrate our Love, Wisdom, and Intelligence to our world, so that we bring forth good works and heal our less fortunate Brothers and Sisters who suffer the same "Divine afflictions." These are Sacred Wounds that through our healing process, lead us to the heart of compassion where we see our Oneness with all who live here on beautiful Earth.
Lower ego gets confused, panicked, fearful, since it is fundamentally not real. When we get into negative states, it's a clear sign to go immediately to your Higher Self and see what is confused and fearful as that which NEEDS to be dealt with, transmuted, and healed. Everything that has the power to make us feel "nothing has gone right for me" is the foundation of an illusion that must be unlearned if we are to live a fulfilling life.
No one can let go of negative thinking and feeling but us! Simply living with these negative thoughts and feelings merely magnetizes more of the same. They often result from too much attachment to past sorrows, which while real, should not be carried forward, since they impede one's ability to find lasting happiness.
When things seem like "nothing has gone right for me," two thoughts come to mind. 1) You're not seeing the bigger picture, and 2) You could be "pushing the river," i.e., doing the "wrong thing," or even the "right thing" but in the "wrong place." These are the result of allowing ego, one's own or another's, to cloud our ability to see the bigger picture, and do "the right thing in the right place at the right time." So how can we stop these unfortunate patterns and claim our happiness, power, effectiveness, and fulfillment?
First, see that you are at a potential beginning, even if you don't know what it going to look like. Try to stay focused that it's not the past, and not yet the future! Live in the Now, since this is truly the only time we can do or not do something. And if you knew what to do, you'd be doing it. So accept that you don't know, and are willing to learn whatever actions, thoughts, and feelings you can to experience a positive movement.
Judging the process too quickly is an unhelpful delusion of the lower ego. You are just beginning a journey out of darkness into light, ignorance into understanding, frustration into potential fulfillment. You have just planted seeds which begin to sprout instantly. You tugging on them to grow faster, or feeling hopeless because they aren't fully realized in a day or a week is useless, and may even impede your process, since impatience, judgments based on illusions, and vain imaginings are counterproductive.
Do not overidentify with what you've been given or denied, since everyone has the same experience of being given some things and denied others. We shouldn't be comparing ourselves to others, or some abstract standard we learned from others when we didn't know better. Life is never at a standstill unless we're not walking. Each has their Way to walk, and chooses how happy or unhappy they will be as they walk the Way.
There is no such thing as standstill, except temporarily. These are moments to reflect on how you want to fill the time than to be trapped by too much going on that isn't good. And all need to take moments of pause to correct their course, rest and regenerate, or simply enjoy the sweetness of Life in the Now. It is there if we're not preoccupied with lesser concerns. Open to the new, rather than get stuck in despair over the past, and what is or is not.
Accept the uniqueness of your path to Truth, and remember life on Earth is impermanent, as are all other forms. Money, jobs, friends,and all relationships are like air. We breathe in the air, and then must release it. When lungs are empty, we can fill them with air. When they are filled with stagnant air, there's nothing to do but empty them. Life's like that.
Same with everything else on Earth. That which is true for us sticks to us. That which is not true for us, or has become not true for us, vanishes into the mists of time. It is our job to understand what comes and what goes, without being thrown into attachment, aversion, delusions, or needless suffering.
We all need fertile ground in which to thrive. If we find ourselves on barren ground, sometimes we must move, whether we want to or not. If we don't know where to go, Spirit always sends us signals, but it is WE who must learn to pay attention and not get lost in gloomy or hopeless states of mind, since these feed a delusion that unfortunate mental and emotional states can bring us health, wealth, love, or perfect self-expression.
Ultimately, we must honor the goodness, truth, and beauty we are rather than focus on unhelpful things. This involves remembering we ARE Eternals who are having human experiences. We all have a body that has issues we must deal with. We all have feelings that need to be transmuted. We all have minds that need opening and a productive self-discipline. And we ALL are ALWAYS the Eternal Self that has the power to help the lower self come into harmony with the Higher Self, the Soul, and the Spirit. Welcome to being a human on Earth, which can be a pretty sweet place if you think about it. Everything depends on your point of view.
May Peace Be With You. Namaste.
© Copyright 2007 Robert Wilkinson