by Robert Wilkinson
Today we take a new look at the power we have to end unhelpful behaviors we don’t want, right here, right now.
From time to time we all get caught in unfortunate and unhelpful responses. We all have acted out behaviors and felt bad after the fact for doing so, and wondered why we didn't react differently. While this is a natural part of being human, (20-20 hindsight is like that!) it's also safe to say that it's always good to redirect negative responses to more positive ones. I've found there is a four step process for doing that.
I last gave you this about a year ago. It seems that over the past year we’ve all “doubled down” on redirecting our feelings and ideas away from old, non-productive patterns and into feelings and views we actually care about. During this time of exploring new emotional flow and patterns, we’ve been through Water trines accompanied with and/or followed by Cardinal T-squares. It’s safe to say we’ve all be tested in our ability to stay balanced with a sense of proportion and perspective.
The method for getting control over our responses and turning unhelpful patterns to more productive patterns is a process of moving from unconscious reactivity or instinctive, or thoughtless impulsive behavior toward an awareness of our ability to choose effective responses consciously, or even effective non-response if there's nothing to be said or done.
This is very helpful when we are confronting people who are consciously or unconsciously trying to bait us into reacting to their negative agenda, or even when we realize we have buttons that are being pushed when we're in certain circumstances. We've all dealt with feeling like we could have or should have responded differently to some things and people. The process I'll offer in part two shows us how to program that into our consciousness, and so release ourselves from reacting unconsciously and/or ineffectively.
It's really simple, though it does require discipline and mindfulness. I discovered this on my own many years ago, and it works for everyone willing to give it a try. Even mastering part of the process produces great results. So if you want to become more aware of how not to go where you don't need to go with certain people, this is definitely for you.
I’ll post part 2 as soon as I’ve rewritten the sections that need it. Enjoy taking command of your physical, emotional, and mental vehicle. Once you learn this technique, you'll be able to redirect all kinds of situations toward more positive outcomes (or at the very least not make them worse!)
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