Why Courtship is Better than Seduction

by Robert Wilkinson

Every Valentine's Day I post something about love, since this is the day supposedly dedicated to lovers everywhere. Today we take a new look at why it's good to know when someone may be trying to manipulate or fool our affections, as well as whether they actually care for us. This is a primary factor in achieving an ideal love.

I've also included some of the history of Valentine's Day, first celebrated in Rome during a dark period in human history. A clue - originally it had nothing to do with giving the candy industry a boost! So for your renewed enjoyment, Happy Valentine's Day - Courtship v. Seduction.

Enjoy, all you lovers - It's your day!

© Copyright 2008 Robert Wilkinson

Comments

[Melody]

Hi again,

As an offering for Valentines day I would also like to offer this link to an article by Cice Rivera about how to recognize a good relationship ... it might not be so metaphysical but its got solid advice and common sense ... and speaking as a married woman of 24 years I think it prudent.

Melody

[dcu]

Thank You Robert. Happy Valentine's day to all who visit this cantina.
In preparing my full moon group announcement I noticed that we had a pair of eclipses exactly one year ago also. I have really enjoyed reading your comments on the significance of the New Moon eclipse of February 6th. Please write about the Full Moon eclipse of February 20th. It makes sense as always that we need to look at them as a one-two punch, so to speak. We get Aquarius and now Pisces. Also, Mercury will have just gone direct, so things will be picking up steam by then.
Blessings to all. dcu

[s]

Yeah. My fam of origin didn't teach me how to court. Learning all about that these days--and liking myself--and the Beloved--so much better these days. Good stuff, this courtship stuff. Actually believing the Beloved is possible and not some fairy tale.

Peace to you!

[Robert]

Hi dcu - Will be composing something on the eclipse within a couple of days.

Hi s - I'm not sure any of our families knew the difference! I had to learn the difference from the I Ching and ponder the meanings and manifestations for many years while breaking free of glamor around seducing and being seduced. I do believe we can dance more easily once we know the difference between seduction and courtship.

[fern capella]

Hi Robert,

Thank you for the touching article. My boyfriend and I are in the very beginning stages of this honest, respectful, self centered, trust centered relationship, but through the light of your love article I see that I still perpetrate some of those seductions and insecurities, and am taken by them as well. We are really trying, we are more and more aware, and I feel blessed to find a soul partner to experience my human with.
I do want to know what you might think though, with my Neptune closely opposite his Mercury, and my Venus conjuct his Uranus, do you think we can ever be truly honest with eachother? His Sun and Venus are conjuct and square his own Pluto, while my Venus is in Scorpio. It is hard for both of us to detach, though neither of us would readily admit that to eachother. I'm including our birth times if you'd like to examine more closely if we have something we can pursue with real affection. First the first time in my life it feels like that might possibly be true.

Fern (myself) 9/9/78 5:35am, moore, oklahoma
D (boyfriend) 6/23/76 2:28am kingston, ny

thank you for your thoughts and your time!
I am going to the UAC conference this May and am taking the relationship astrology track so hopefully I'll run into you there!

Fern

[Robert]

Hi Fern - You're welcome. Good that you're glimpsing how to move into an even more refined state of relating, to self and others. We can ALWAYS be honest with each other regardless of planetary contacts. Your contacts require that neither of you accept or generate put-downs, or taking each other for granted. Your affections and likes stimulate him to genius or eccentricity, which is his choice. Just like his squares - avoiding extremes and extreme people, as well as dishonest or corrosive people, is one of his heart lessons this lifetime, just as one of your important lessons is to learn non-possessiveness. As for the UAC conference, as strange as it seems given the theme of the event, I wasn't invited to be a presenter, so I probably won't attend.