Feelings - Why Get A Grip?

by Robert Wilkinson

Fear and the loss of self control at inopportune moments often lead us into distress. We hear a lot about bad luck and evil, though in fact most if not all the "evil" in our lives is the result of fear, attachment to the sensations of life, vanity, and raw unexamined desire.

It's been a long while since I put forth anything from the venerable "Magic of Space." Its teachings bear major league fruit, and even a small time contemplating on its truths yields long term patterns of expanding consciousness.

For your renewed consideration, Emotions, Self-Control, and Correcting Habits. We really CAN correct things easier than we think, though it does take some self-control.

Follow the internal links for an interesting journey.

© Copyright 2008 Robert Wilkinson

Comments

[larissa]

Hi Robert - why do you think the same person hurts you over and over again. So nice in person and so arrogant and mean in other times. Sadistic he is?

[Robert]

Hi Larissa - It means you're with the wrong people and need to reprogram your subconsciousness. It's not really about him, since he's obviously got hidden agendas. Why are you inviting such behavior?

[Larissa]

Hi Robert - I don't know. It is like unstoppable yo-yo action. Can't control it. Someone's capricious behavior sets me off. I wish this can go away. Around August 1 I felt so much better and free, but it comes back to me. I alwasy expect people be nicer and I believe in their good nature and give too many chances to this person in particular. My fault. I don't know how to deal with this.

[Robert]

Hi Larissa - You have the typical Aries problem of expecting others to have higher standards or more consistent behavior than you should. We are often disappointed in others when they don't live up to our concepts of honesty, friendship, dedication, and the other traits we admire in others. You probably need a discipline that helps you redirect the intensity into more productive ways of being.

In any case, you must not continue to seek nice behavior from those who prove they are not nice. Your problem will end when you stop inviting and engaging unfulfilling dances and learn to walk the other way. See clearly when the first signs of misbehavior show up, make the inner shift in view, and stop beating your head against the proverbial wall. Some battles are not worth fighting, and you have no power to stop another being the way they will be. But you can go the other way and find more worthy people to play with.

[Larissa]

Robert, yes, I know... But I am so stubborn and can't let go even if the whole situation upsets me. Some force is holding me. Uh-h. Tough. Like a trap. Thank you.

[larissa]

Hi Robert - a question for you: what would you choose - intuition or logic? Intuition versus logic? It applies to the situation I described earlier. Somehow when i apply logic - things turn out to be stale and dead. Intuition and quick decisions take me places and situation where i feel alive, but could be burned, but survive and enjoy life again.

Also, in man/woman relationship (you are Venus Taurus too, like me), how would you try to manage Venus in Aquarius friend? Something is missing even in friendships with such spieces. A friend is Cap sun, Taurus moon. Been a dilemma. Strange combination of possessiveness, yet huge detachment.

[larissa]

Hi Robert - you know I bought a piano recently and completely soaked into it! I love playing it and my teacher told me I am a natural. I didn't know. Playing and hearing it, opened sort of another channel in my brain. I feel it. Music always takes me away, but this time even more so. What is it in my horoscope - Venus in Taurus takes me there? :) I hope you have the most wonderful week ahead!!! Feels so good!

[Robert]

Hi Larissa - Stop trying to "manage" the Venus in Aquarius person. Take them as they are or leave them alone. Your Moon in Scorpio need to learn when to stop digging. Yes, Venus in Taurus can help you calm down and enjoy the ride.

[Larissa]

Thanks Robert.

[larissa]

Hi Robert - I can't take him as he is, I will leave him. No one can take them as they are, with a very rare exception. Yes, I have been digging, because I have a heart which tried to understand certain motives, especilaly when my life is involved. It is much better than being aloof and indifferent like them. They are not aware the damage they do to others, and it is again, not their fault. Now I know how It is just unfortunate to have Venus in Aquarius, and as it is difficult to have Moon in Scorpio.

[Robert]

Hi Larissa - Please stop judging a given planetary sign placement simply because you don't have the inclination to dance with it. Your statement "no one can take them as they are" is incorrect, since ALL of us with strong Aquarius do quite well with Venus in Aquarius types. It is NOT unfortunate to have Venus in Aquarius, nor anywhere else for that matter. Digging where it only annoys us is not a sign that the heart is doing what it should do.

Your Moon in Scorpio is only unfortunate to the degree you haven't mastered the Lunar duality. To refresh you: Moon - Peace/Strife. This is the aspect of consciousness describing how subconsciousness responds to the immediacy of our experience. By our Lunar function we fall into fear, dependency, or backward-looking insecurity, and thus come to know how to provide for the need of the moment in a mature and sensitive way, protecting what is valuable and nurturing that which needs care.

To quote Shakespeare, "“The fault... is not in our stars, But in ourselves...” Make peace with your Moon in Scorpio, cultivate the balancing Taurus virtues, and you'll be much happier.

[Larissa]

Robert, I love my Scorpio moon. All you tell me to stop digging and stop judging... sorry I asked my question. I am alive, I probe, I breath, I feel, I question.

If some don't feel, not my fault. Some are so aloof they might as well be dead. Then yes, you are right, some should be apart. AS for Shakespeare, he is wrong. He was just a poet. No more, no less. It Is the stars, we can only slightly adjust to what is given. You can never change a Scorpio moon into Aquarius moon, so the fault is in the stars. Shakespeare was wrong.

[Robert]

Hi Larissa - You seem to misunderstand how our planets work, how they came to be, and what we can do about their function. EVERYONE feels, and how they do so is not an issue of "fault." While some are aloof, it's really not their problem if they choose that. Here I must remind you that Shakespeare was NOT "just a poet." Besides being a brilliant writer with a profound knowledge of human nature, European history, and high culture, it is supposed that he was just the front man for the most brilliant and cultured minds of his era who all collaborated in "his" works. There is more wisdom re: human nature in his works than 99% of all that has been written globally in the history of humanity.

Our stars allow us to take the high road or the low road. Which we choose in the moment is in fact within our grasp. The stars did not create our planetary positions. We did so in our prior lives by what we learned and did not learn. By our responses this life we create our planetary positions in the next life. My "afflicted" Moon manifested many ways when I was ignorant. My "afflicted" Moon now manifests in more productive ways due to my learning the lessons of how to turn "afflictions" into productive responses. I believe it has to do with coming out of ignorance into mindfulness and practicing my virtues the best I'm able. Some still don't like my Lunar functioning. Oh well. I'm reasonably happy within reasonable limits, so who can judge how well I'm learning my lessons, how or what I feel, and whether I "should" be feeling differently than I am, given the phenomenal tragedies that have marked my life?