Just Who Is Our Soul Group and How To Forgive Abusive People - Pt. 1

by Robert Wilkinson

One theme that seems universal through the years is the question of whether the members of our family of origin are necessarily part of our "Soul Group," and how can we forgive family members who abused us across the years. Do we actually invite the abuse through "karmic choice?"

This is a two part series that bears re-posting from time to time, given the quantity of willful and/or destructive behaviors, feelings, and thoughts that pervade the collective atmosphere. Today we’ll revisit the subject of Soul groups, and who may or may not be members of that, in the short or long term. Part 2 focuses more on the subject of abuse by family members, and how that is related to our Soul. Today for your consideration, here's Part 1.

Is Abuse A Karmic Necessity, and Do We Cause It By Our Past Lives?

I was asked by someone who suffered abuse by a family member when younger how an abusive person could be part of our Soul group. Do we "invite" abuse from family members to learn spiritual lessons? Is our karma to suffer more abuse in future lifetimes? Is tolerating willful, ignorant and destructive behavior necessary to find forgiveness? Since many grapple with these problematic questions, here are a few ideas on these and other related subjects.

Are All the People in our Family in our Soul Group?

While it is true that people "travel in groups with kindred souls," that's not to say we always travel with exactly the same Beings. There are groups and there are Groups, if you know what I mean. And not all beings in a larger group share the same lessons, or level of awareness.

Even within a narrow Soul cluster, different Beings are there to teach each other through their own specialties. Some are more dispassionate, some less. Some are more discriminating, some less. Some are more courageous, some less. Some are more aware of subtleties, some less. Each evolves according to their individual inclinations.

It can also be assumed that since evolution is eternal, we have much to learn from those who are not part of our immediate Soul cluster, Soul Group, or particular groups. In this sense, we learn from those in our larger Ray group, as well as those in different Ray groups, to use another term.

That means we interact with those with whom we have relatively little in common as well as those who may feel more kindred. We learn to sing our Song though all kinds of interactions, by unisons, harmonies, silences, and "All Together Now" (thanks, Sir Paul). We also learn from dissonance, if only to know when we're in the wrong place with the wrong people.

Awareness arises from experience. Experience is both inner and outer and precipitated by how we view circumstances. By the choices we make we find ourselves in the presence of kindred as well as strange beings who also choose their behavior, which sometimes is not what we need or like. Then we react as we will. How we choose to act moves us in directions of pleasure or pain.

Different Strokes for Different Folks

The different Ray groups, as part of their evolution, have totally different methods, means, and lessons for externalizing their truth of Being. A destroyer has a different function than a preserver, or a creator. Each of these has its own potential, and different beings work out that function in their own way, based on their level of awareness.

Here we must remember that different beings are on different evolutionary levels. Not all destroyers work for good. Some creators are devils. Some preservers prop up forms that shouldn't be indulged in at all, much less perpetuated. Much can be related to intention.

While all Souls are "good" (whatever that means) it can also be said that some personalities are so dysfunctional that it makes their Soul obscured because of unfortunate desires and ideas. When a being indulges very destructive behavior arising from lower motives and desires, it always leads to negative results, regardless of what Ray or cluster or whatever.

There are beings who willfully do as they please, without regard to its effect on others. This is an unhealthy separateness from the Soul. While there may be some magnetism and karma at work in our meetings with such beings, we should not feel that these beings are part of our Soul group merely because we have magnetism and karma to work through.

So What Is Our Soul Group?

Our Soul, and other beings' Souls, are eternally connected in overlapping radiant Love-Wisdom. No Soul connected to another Soul within a true Soul group, however close or distant, would ever want anything that would result in suffering or any other negative result.

So there are many types of and levels of closeness and distance in these things called "Soul Groups." From one point of view, all Sentient Beings are part of our global "Soul group." From another view only those who have truly loved us and we have truly loved, those who took us to a greater, unconditional Love, are our "Soul Group." Again, defining what we mean here and the various types of interrelationships on all levels of existence must be considered.

So some beings, while related in some way within the larger Lifewave, may or may not be part of our particular Soul group. Certainly, while some members of our nuclear family obviously are part of our Soul group, just because a being is directly related genetically does not mean they are part of our Soul group.

This is why families have some very disparate Beings, some closer, some not close at all. It's also why a step-parent, step-grandparent, and ancient friends could be more family, more a part of our Soul group, than others we may be related to by blood. Genetics are strong, but Consciousness is everything.

Our parents have a unique relationship to us, as do our grandparents. But it doesn't necessarily mean they are one of the few in our Soul cluster. Again, there are levels of connectedness even within a Soul Group. Whether in the body or out, there are varying degrees of intimacy and harmony between Eternals.

For example, there are adoptees who never know their blood parents, but are unconditionally loved by those who adopt them. Those who are raised by blood parents and grandparents in one life may in fact be with beings in their Soul group, but even that is subject to change. The number of people we've been related to on Earth is countless. Not all have always been with us on our eternal journey.

So the mere fact that someone is related to us by blood does not mean they are part of our Sangha, or Spiritual Fellowship. Much is determined by how helpful or hurtful they are toward us this lifetime. Someone who abuses us, even if they are related on some level of "Soul," is jeopardizing the very Soul connection that brought our magnetism together this life. If they indulge abusive actions, feelings, and thoughts it may result in them being part of a much different Soul group and we may never meet them again, in this life or another.

Tomorrow we'll explore the concept of abuse, and how much choice a Being has not to participate in abusive behavior. As always, this topic may bring up some intense feelings, so be gentle and kind with yourselves as you move through very deep and ancient waters.

Also, as I stated in the original articles, please be careful what you post in the comment stream, as it will find its way to google. This is a sensitive subject for many, and so some degree of discretion may be in order.

Copyright © 2010, 2012 Robert Wilkinson

Comments

[shinis]

abuse.. something I encounter daily. every minute. every second. The individual doing the abusing is spiritually advanced, telepathic and able to manipulate my body via his mind.
Nope, no joke this is for real. my body is manipulated like I am a puppet. Disturbing - I am "learning to live with it". like a "chronic disease". or like a "battered woman who grins and bears and goes on like its normal". Here is the saddest part of the story, he is absolutely aware, and conscious. Its just that he simply does not care about how it affects me. its fun and a joke to this person. In fact its so funny that I can feel my cheek beig pulled at you know like i a a silly child. Lucky are those who can go to the authorities and get a restraining order, as for me I cannot. I doubt anyone will ever believe what I say. Did i mention, he writes books and blogs about humanity, spirit, metaphysical love, and even astrology. great blog keep up the good work..

[Kay]

Sometimes when we are victims of abuse we have a "spiritual contract" with the abuser for us to reclaim our power in the situation and most times when we allow that to happen the abuse stops or does not have any power to control one anymore, we must consciously break the contract, which may have originated many many lifetimes ago,I send much love to all who face abuse and who have endured abuse of any kind, but know that this too will end, and you have more power in the situation than you think.....

[ull]

This is a very important subject for me. Working very hard to clean myself of abusive treatment effect on my early emotional life.

[Debbie Eastick]

I have experienced a lot of emotional abuse in my younger days, and it led me to contemplate on the possibility that it would take a very loving and courageous soul to be willing to be the "bad guy" divine tool in my life to give me the opportunity to overcome this by being and doing good by example. I often then hope I have honoured their gift.

[Robert]

Hi shinis - First, break the inner contact and they will have absolutely no power over you. All of these psychic manipulations exist on the Astral and Mental levels, and as such have no intrinsic reality. When you choose to break the emotional links that keep you in this drama, they will lose all power over you. This being cannot be "spiritually advanced," or even knowledgeable about metaphysical Love or Spirit, or they wouldn't be indulging in the sort of psychic mischief you say is happening. Why don't you go back to my article on "Prayer, Meditation, Affirmations and Thought Forms" and begin to do the affirmation at the end? Get rid of fear and especially doubt and it should work pdq.

Also, get a copy of "You Can Heal Your Life" by Louise Hay and go through it. You will find some powerful affirmations in there that will over-ride lesser thought forms, both within and without. Ultimately, you can break this being's ability to do mischief to you on any level, as well as any other potential future mischief by this one or any other, through using concentration, meditation, and contemplation exercises to cultivate detachment, dispassion, discrimination, and the ability to generate Bodhichitta, or good will. All black magic and manipulations exist on the Astral (psychic) and Mental levels, which are inherently unreal since they have no independent existence other than what is forcibly generated over temporary periods of time.

This Being has absolutely no power over you except that which you indulge. Renounce and sever the astral connections and this person has no ability to influence you. As you consciously affirm that you are under Divine Grace, and therefore the infinite Power and Love of Divine Mother, you will see lesser influences melt away like the Wicked Witch of the West when hit by water. Truly, this being's "power" will quickly evaporate into a mere nothing.

God is the only power that is - since you are a part of God, then no lesser thing or being can have a negative influence if you choose to renounce and deny that influence. And only a fool would dare to try to manipulate a consciously identified God-being, since all they would send would turn back upon them like the Furies grabbing the evil one in the movie "Ghost." If you are under the Divine Grace and protection of Divine Mother, I wouldn't want to be in this mischief maker's shoes, since truly, those who sow the wind shall reap the whirlwind.

Hi Kay - Absolutely! When we sever the connections, others have no power over us. Since we are sparks of Eternal Light/Life that exist within the Greater Light/Life we call "God," and "God" is All-That-Is, we cannot be influenced by clouded beings of unworthy motives unless we choose to identify with the lower rather than the higher. Once we eliminate the centers of receptivity where lesser thought forms take hold, we cannot be influenced against our Higher Self or its ability to take control of the lower triad at will. And you speak the truth when you state that we have more power than we think.

Hi ull - Practice makes perfect! As we become conscious of ancient destructive patterns, we can consciously change them to more helpful patterns in action, feeling, and thought. As we learn to spot and transmute old feelings and ideas of fear, victimization, avoidance, and suffering, we come into love, power, clarity, and strength, which of course are the attributes of the Higher Self. As we consciously identify with the Higher Self, the lower triad of personality falls into line and we can never be victimized again.

Hi Debbie - We honor the gift through redeeming the promise. We are the Higher Self, and all lesser things must be placed within that context. As we come to regard everything as grist for the mill of Soul, we change the patterns that keep us stuck in unhelpful responses.

Hi all - One thought - Really, how can "God" be victimized? As we consciously identify with our God-Self, we cannot be victimized either. Change patterns of identifying with behaviors that lead to a sense of victimization, and you change your life forever. Though there are many lesser karmas to be worked through in this life and others, as we know ourselves to be our Divine Self, totally identified with and enveloped by our Father-Mother God which is One Indivisible Light-Life-Love, we can never be manipulated by lesser things since "God" provides absolute protection and guidance. And since we are forever part of that, what is there to fear? Do not give the illusion any more power than it deserves, which is none. You cannot be victimized by an illusion.

[Elizabeth]

I will print this and keep it under my pillow, to read every night! I have spent a lifetime it seems to try and figure out how certain human beings in my life can be so inhumane and sometimes evil!! I have tried to lead by example but all I have managed to achieve is a near destruction of my soul. I am no match for such dark beings I am afraid and since I refuse to stoop to such levels of deprivation I have started a disempowerment process since last year. It is taking longer than I would like it to but circumstances demand this. Bless you Robert, and thank you for your wisdom!!!

[Anne]

"Get thee behind me, Satan" is a good, time-honored one to use, too.

[Heather]

I recently had an experience with someone who was abusive, and I had the idea in my head that perhaps it was karmic, and perhaps was a lesson to me in developing compassion. And, in the end, I was right, but in a different way than I thought. I thought I needed to learn compassion (and forgiveness) for others, despite their humanity. Turns out, I needed to learn compassion for MYSELF. To not accept that kind of behavior being turned toward me, regardless of what pain or issues the other may have.

[Robert]

Hi Elizabeth - First priority is to preserve the loving strength of your Heart. With that, all things are possible.

Hi Anne - Yes, I've used that myself in earlier days. Now I advise something like "May the Love of the Eternal One banish that which I fear."

Hi Heather - I'm sure you'll like what I go into in part 2. Enjoy!

[rogue12]

what if you yourself cause abuse in reaction to being abused on an unconscious or subconscious level, in relation to whom you love? And what if you didn't mean to and what happens if your conscious of what you did and say, are truly sorry for it. It still reaps karma then i suppose?

[shinis]

thanks so much Robert, will take to heart your advice and begin implementing those techniques into my life. I wish god could just offer me a restraining order to keep this person at bay. He is also a physician btw. sad but true. Again thank you so very much for the advice.

[Rebekka]

you rock. blessings! safe surfing in weird times my Friend... thanks for the reminder in perspective!

[julie]

If a crime has been committed, what do you do? Do you contact that person, years later. Do you then connect your future with theirs? I suppose you do.. if you are brave. I suppose you could leave it, but then, silence is all that is required of us. What is needed for healing and how does natural justice then work. As human beings, we at least need to speak up about what has happened.

[Robert]

Hi Julie - I suppose it depends on the crime, and whether a contact would lead to problems. I tend to leave what is dead to the dead, and move forward into a better way freed from contact with those who abused me. And I speak up as I walk my walk whenever it's appropriate, so that others may learn from my past experience. Remember that sometimes "justice" is found in living well, in ways that do not invite any future abuse.