by Robert Wilkinson
I recently received an email from someone having a hard time. As we all have a hard time once in a while, some of what I wrote them may be useful down the road.
They were having a very hard time with other people’s judgments and their own bad habits, and were feeling overwhelmed by other people’s coercions and destructive behaviors. This person expressed they felt “schizo,” “crazy,” and other unhelpful self-assessments, and that they had lost their way.
As an aside, I suspect that many are having a hard time because of the relentless pressure of Uranus square Pluto somewhere in our charts. When we add the chronic opposition of Mercury to Jupiter for the past 7 weeks and the mundane square from Saturn to Neptune, it doesn’t surprise me that some might feel the disoriented jagged edge of perceptual spinouts! These could definitely be associated with some pretty weird experiences for those who are out of balance!
I began by reminding them that it doesn't matter what people say about us. Either we are in our center and living our integrity or we aren't.
If we are, then there’s really no problem regardless of what others say. If we are not, then all we need to do is get back to living our integrity and it still doesn't matter what others say. We are in charge of our lives and our actions and our relationships, and each of us is our own absolute law-giver, “the dispenser of glory or gloom” to ourselves by what we say “yes” to, and what we say “no” to.
Remember too that all humans go through hormonal and chemical changes as a function of having a physical body. Sometimes we’re chemically imbalanced, and usually we are in no position to determine what is out of balance. That’s when it’s very important to be cautious in what you do, think, feel, and consume.
I have noted over the years that many begin calling themselves some very unhelpful things when they’re in pain and confusion. Calling ourselves “schizo,” “crazy,” and other such descriptors cannot help us in any way. If we need help, then we need to find help.
If our imbalance and confusion comes from chemical/genetic/heredity issues, then there is one set of things to do. If it's simply a matter of lifestyle and associations, then it's another set of things to do.
When we are in pain and confusion, if we can’t make it better, it’s equally important not to make it worse! We certainly don’t need to aggravate our suffering by doing things that can’t alleviate that suffering. That often means we have to avoid those who encourage self-destructive or hedonistic behavior, and get on a meditative or other form of therapeutic discipline.
While getting back to sanity can be arduous, it's also the only way to live. And all human problems have solutions. We may not like them, but they will solve our problems.
Ultimately, any feeling that we’ve “lost our way” is a spur for us to remember that we are the ones who steer our ship of personality wherever we choose. This is the doorway where we can begin consciously identifying with the way of Spirit rather than the way of matter. Again, our inner integrity means more than any external thing, and we do not have to stay confused or anything else, since these are temporary states of perception that have no permanence.
We ARE an Eternal Consciousness having human experiences. We are all learning how to navigate the 4D reality and were not raised by saints or sages. We all go through difficulty until we learn what we need to learn. And it seems that if we don’t take care of important things in one round, we will have to take care of them in another.
When we realize all forms pass away, both pleasurable and painful, then we can learn a healthy detachment. I have also found it helpful to regard my suffering as happening to my personality while my Soul just loves me, everyone else, and everything through it all.
When we are most disoriented, it’s important for us to get clear about what is truly real, conditionally real, apparently real, and inherently unreal. Then we won't fall into illusions. And remembering that the mind is inherently pessimistic, we can learn how to generate positivity on our own behalf.
When things are most “crazy” and make the “least sense,” we are offered true opportunities to leave behind perceptual chains and traps, stop identifying with that which seems “crazy” or “doesn’t make sense,” and open to seeing what IS from a greater holistic perception. It’s all part of our human journey. If we need help, then we need help. If we just need to move in a different direction, we can do that as well.
It’s all about overcoming the fears that ego persistently attaches to itself, and moving into a greater Love for becoming our Higher Self. While it can be a struggle from time to time, your Inner Spiritual Warrior can never be defeated. Only ego can be defeated. And when it is, then Spirit triumphs! What’s not to like?
© Copyright 2015 Robert Wilkinson
Love you Robert to the moon and back!!! Thank you for being a consistent guiding light from the stars and the heart <3
Posted by: Jules | February 28, 2015 at 09:34 AM
Yes! Thank you for this post. It rings true for me and I appreciate the timing:)
Having really struggled and lost so much of myself as of late has been a great opportunity to exercise some free will. Being and feeling lost, when it seems nothing is left and what is left isn't working anymore, is the actual thing that's has helped me to focus on what I really want and need. I can intentionally choose love and peace at every moment. I can always love myself. There is always room for acceptance and knowing that this too shall pass. I do appreciate the clarity and focus that it brings.
Posted by: Susan Hutchinson | February 28, 2015 at 02:50 PM
Hi Robert,
Thank you!! I've never experienced such hatred from others as I have in the past year. People as well as close friends I've known for many years have acted in a way that has left me stunned. I realize there are always 2 sides to every story and I have no issues or ego when it comes to being wrong or admitting something I've done wrong, however; this past year and even until recently have been the "ending" of many many friendships. Being an Aries, I like to communicate, talk things out, be completely honest with my friends yet at the same time I communicate love for them and tell them how much they mean to me. The end result has been worse than I could have ever imagined. This includes losing many people close to my heart. I've tried to reconcile and have even taken any blame for bringing something up that was bothering me...but to no avail. All of these people turned into people I truly don't know! From how I've been treated to the purposely hurtful things these people are now doing, I'm at my wits end trying to figure why they have so much hatred towards me. I know this too shall pass, however; at this age I truly feel I've lost the people I loved the most just because I was honest. I've decided being honest isn't always the best thing. Staying quiet is better. :-(
Posted by: ss | March 02, 2015 at 11:03 AM
Beautiful and clear. The path of life is a lesson and a crisis one after the other as we make progress. The right `perspective is essential. You made a great summary of it: " I have also found it helpful to regard my suffering as happening to my personality while my Soul just loves me, everyone else, and everything through it all".
Blessings be,
Posted by: Nic | March 02, 2015 at 01:16 PM